First off, I’d like to preface this open letter by saying that your life will not turn out the way you think it will, and that’s perfectly acceptable.
Upon coming to Duquesne as a Freshman, I knew about some the different clubs and organizations that I could potentially get involved with. Being a student-athlete at the time (a different story for a different day), I knew that I’d have to choose wisely due to my packed schedule. I knew that there was nothing I could get involved in too heavily, as my commitments were to my family, academics, and rowing. Needless to say, Greek Life did not ever cross my mind. Not once, not ever.
*refer to preface*
After three weeks I was no longer a student-athlete. I was crushed, to be perfectly candid. After long conversations with my parents and a hefty amount of soul searching, I decided to have this mindset: “When one door closes, another one opens.” As cliche as it may sound, it is 100% true. It turns out that that door would be a classroom in Rockwell Hall that the sisters of Alpha Omicron Pi were using for Spring Recruitment…
Fast forward to post-Christmas vacation approximately 2 weeks. Let’s call it what it was- I didn’t feel fulfilled enough. I realized that I needed something else to contribute to, along with my academics and work-study program. I made a few friends over the course of the Fall semester that belonged to sororities already, and they encouraged that I just give it a chance. That’s exactly what I did.
All through high school, I never had any desire to be a sorority girl- one of “those” girls. I came into the process with misconceptions, truthfully. Going through recruitment was one of the most chaotic, stressful, yet the most rewarding things I’ve ever taken part in. After one week of nights filled with conversations about literally the same things over and over again, sub-par sleep, and nerves galore, I found AOII and they found me. I received a bid, and accepting it was one of the best decisions I’ve made in a while. My cards are all in. I’ve completely bought into my organization and my sisters, because truthfully, I needed them, I need them now, and I always will need them. I was no longer with the rowing team- I lost one set of sisters. Joining AOII allowed me to find another. This support system is going to allow me to grow in so many ways that I could have never expected. I’m not even an initiated member yet, but I am so grateful for my Alphas. I was fortunate enough to attend the Northeastern Greek Leadership Association conference in Hartford, Connecticut before Spring Break. I was truly captivated by the professionals and advisors who came together to teach us (sorority and fraternity members from all over the northeast U.S.) how to be more effective leaders, how to improve ourselves and our chapters, and how to not make excuses for why we can’t reach our potential. That last one really resonated with me.
*note: I could literally go on for an entire day about the process of recruitment and new member processes, so if it seems like I’m under-exaggerating them, that’s why*
All in all, I’m glad life doesn’t work out how we intend it to. But no worries, truly. It makes life more interesting. I am not in the place I thought I would be during Freshmen Orientation, and I couldn’t be more thankful for that.
“Forever Yours, Always Mine.” -Alpha Omicron Pi